Many people yearn to be more self-confident. Yet they have no idea how to achieve that objective. They look at others who have the gift and say, “Hey that's what I want. I hate feeling unsure of myself. I wish I could stop obsessing about what others think of me and quit worrying about disappointing other people. I want to stop anguishing over my decisions and torturing myself about my mistakes. I think it would be so great to feel self-assured, hold my head up high and stand tall. I've never been self-confident. I wish there were a way I could be.”
There is a way. You don't have to be born with self-confidence. Self-confidence can grow and flourish and ripen and blossom until you actually come to feel as though there is a different person inside of you. Here are some insights that might facilitate the quest.
Learn what a self-confident person is really like. They are not cocky, know-it-all people who don't care what anybody else thinks. They have their doubts. And make mistakes. And are far from perfect. However, they are willing to acknowledge their inadequacies without dwelling on them. They do this by maintaining a sense of humor, putting problems in perspective, and focusing mainly on what they've done right, not wrong.
Though self-confident people do believe in themselves, they don't try to suffocate others with their ideas or beliefs. They are confident in what they know not only because they read, learn and think but also because they respect their instinct, intuition and the unique body of knowledge that they've developed by living life. They realize that one doesn't have to be labeled an “expert” to believe in one's own truths.
Self-confident people don't undermine their own worth by comparing themselves with others, only to conclude that they aren't “good enough”. They appreciate their strengths and accomplishments and can acknowledge, without embarrassment, their weaknesses. They don't live in the “victim” position. Even if something really bad has occurred, they turn it into a challenge, remembering to be grateful for the little things in life.
Self-confident people let the world know who they are. If they want something badly enough, they know they have every right to “go for it.” Yet, they also know that the path will rarely be easy. Mistakes, blunders and failures are part of the learning process. They seek to learn from their mistakes and do not waste time torturing themselves over what “could have been”.
Self-confident people are not obstinate people. If they have an idea about something and it differs from the way another person is thinking about it, they will usually try to look at it from that person's point of view, see why it makes sense to them. Yet, a confident person's sense of self is grounded. It does not blow in the wind. Their ideas do not fluctuate based on what others deem are important.
I hope these insights are helpful to you. If so, perhaps one day you will be able to say what the actress Phyllis Rashad once said, simply but eloquently, “ I am just myself and who I am is a lot.”
许多人渴望更加自信。然而，他们不知道如何实现这一目标。他们谁也看别人的礼物，并说，“嘿，这就是我想要的。我恨我自己感觉不确定。我希望我能阻止别人怎么看我着迷，而放弃了其他人的担心有关失望。我想停止anguishing了我的决定和关于我的错误折磨自己。我认为这将是如此之大感到自信，握住我的头，巍然屹立。我从来没有自信。我希望有一种方法我可以。”
有一个办法。你不必与自信出生。自信成长和蓬勃发展，成熟，开花，直到你真的觉得好像来到内有你不同的人。这里有一些见解，可能有助于追求。
了解什么是自信的人是真的很喜欢。他们不是自大，专门的IT所有的人谁不关心别人的想法。他们有他们的疑虑。和犯错误。而远非十全十美。然而，他们也愿意承认自己没有对他们居住不足之处。他们通过保持幽默感，把地看待问题，并专注于他们做了什么权利，主要是没有错的。
虽然自信的人都相信自己，他们并没有试图扼杀自己的想法和信念等。他们有信心，在他们不知道，只是因为他们阅读，学习和思考，还因为他们尊重自己的本能，直觉和知识的独特的机构，他们已经开发的居住生活。他们意识到，一个没有被贴上“专家”相信自己的真理。
自信的人不与别人比较而低估自己本身的价值，只认为他们不是“足够好”.他们欣赏自己的长处和成绩，可以承认，没有尴尬，他们的弱点。他们不是生活在“受害者”的立场。即使发生了非常糟糕的事情，他们变成一个挑战它，记得要在生活中的小事表示感谢。
自信让世界人民知道他们是谁。如果他们渴望爱情，他们知道他们有权利“为它去。”然而，他们也知道这条道路将很少是容易的。失误，失误和失败都是学习过程的一部分。他们设法从错误中吸取教训，不要浪？？费时间折磨过什么“本来”自己。
自信的人是不固执的人。如果他们对某事的想法，它从另一个人的方式思考它不同，他们通常会尝试看看它从该人的角度来看，明白为什么它们是有意义的。然而，一个自信的人的自我意识是基础。它不吹在风中。他们的思想波动不根据别人认为是重要的。
我希望这些见解对您有所帮助。如果是这样，也许有一天，你就可以说什么女演员菲莉丝拉沙德曾经说过，简单而又雄辩地说：“我只是我自己和我是谁了很多。”
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